How should we decide and what should we do to prevent regretting? I usually see people who are regretting all the time about past and how they went wrong and decided not properly and on the other hand there are people - of course because of bad experiences of past mistakes - who are afraid of deciding at all. I think these people not only simply don't know how to decide but also their lack of knowledge doesn't end here!
First of all I think we should define a good decision before anything else. When we want to decide about something, we should first have enough knowledge about that problem or situation and other things related to it. But here is the main problem! We could never get all the information because we don't have all the knowledge and even the science itself isn't complete and won't be ever! So what can we do? We know we don't have all the information and we know we need it for the best decision so there is nothing to do unless we choose another way to approach the problem! The thing is you can just gather the required information as much as you can and just decide rationally based on them. But is it failed proof? Of course not! So what was the good of such a decision? It’s because we want to and we need to live! We can't just sit there and say oh! there is no guaranty to prevent failure! We have to decide and move on because not doing anything is the worst thing to do! But wait a minute! If we've decided on all the information that we were able to have and we've decided rationally and in the end we face a failure, can we say we were wrong? I don't think so! If you had two options and you knew that one of them is known to be wrong or had a chance of being wrong and you’ve chosen it nevertheless, that's the time you can say you were wrong but if you had two options and based on your information at that moment both of them could be potentially right and you’ve chosen one of them rationally and it has ended in failure, you can't call it a wrong decision! You can call it an experience or even a bad experience or a bad luck but certainly it was not a wrong decision. Of course we're not talking about trial and error; we're talking about making a good decision based on the best information of the time and ending up in failure. If it’s anyone’s fault, it's fault of the time or the science of that time but definitely not me! I can just do my best and hope it will end up good but I can't see the future. No one can guarantee anything with certainty because there are millions of different factors influencing everything which lots of them are unknown to us. So if I weren't wrong, how can I regret?!
We should just spend the time we put on regretting on making a good decision and accept the chance of failure. Some people have a fear of making decisions (decidophobia) but it's just because they don't know how to decide and how to accept the chance of failure. Their past is usually full of wrong decisions (considering that time) and they are living in its consequences now. If we learn how to decide properly and how to face and manage failure, we won't be afraid of making decisions anymore.
The bottom line is we shouldn't spend our time on regretting about past or being worried about future, we should just get the most out of our lives and live without fears and worries.
::samic::